LUNCHTIME EPIPHANY

Had lunch today with some friends after Mini-Me’s cross-country meet.

We arrived a little late and we were all joking with each other. “Mr. T” laughed and said, “Yeah, now that the health coach is here, we’re all going to have to eat healthy.”

And I just smiled and laughed because I thought it was funny. It sparked a short conversation about following the 80/20 rule – which is to try to eat healthy 80% of the time and give yourself the freedom to enjoy “junk food” 20% of the time.

We also talked about moderation and not going to extremes with your food choices. Overall, it was a great lunch and great conversations and we had a great time.

The “weird” thing to me is that after I had joked about eating what I wanted because today was part of my 20%, when it came time to order, I didn’t go CRAZY and eat a bunch of junk.

I had grilled chicken, baked beans, fried okra, and Texas toast.

I only ate until 80% full. I left food on my plate and didn’t feel “guilty” for wasting food. I just brought the rest home.

I actually WANTED the grilled chicken. Only ate about half of everything else, and when I felt full, I stopped.

I could have chosen some seriously unhealthy things. But my habits are becoming a part of who I am now, and the choices felt natural and right for me. Nothing extreme. No guilt or battling what I should do.

It was nice to realize that all this “health coaching” stuff that I’ve been doing for months is WORKING. Setting my goals. Creating my habits. Working on consistency over perfection. Baby steps, self-compassion, mindset. I’m not where I WANT to be, but I’m getting there!

So, yeah. Today was a good day.

Later….

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